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Don't Tolerate Intolerance

5/17/2014

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Today is International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (http://dayagainsthomophobia.org/). And I'm participating in a blog hop on that topic. When deciding what to write about in regards to homophobia or transphobia, I decided to think back to the last time I experienced/witnessed one or the other and to write about that occasion.

Seven days.
I've made it a full week since I last witnessed homophobia. Though, if you factor in the research necessary for this post, my brief reprieve from hate speech  is more like seven minutes.

And for anyone else keeping tally on how many days, minutes, hours, they can go without being disappointed in their fellow man, I'm sorry, but this post is about to reset some counters.

When Michael Sam got drafted into the NFL and kissed his boyfriend on ESPN, my social media networks blew up. And I saw basically three kinds of responses. "Good for him." "How do I explain this to my children?" and "Why is this even news?"


My response was "Good for him". But I want to answer those two questions. Starting with the first one because it's the easiest.

How do I explain this to my children?


He's gay.


That's it. That's the whole answer. That's how you explain to your seven year old or your nine year old why the man on TV is kissing another man. He's gay. If he were straight and had just gotten drafted into the NFL he might of kissed a wife or a girlfriend. But he kissed his boyfriend. Cause he's gay. And if your kid doesn't know what gay means. Well, ESPN just gave you a perfect opportunity to explain it.

The existence of gay people is not sensitive information. It's not some horrible thing that must be hidden from the minds of innocent children. Some of those innocent children being protected by the heteronormative fantasy world their parents are trying to create are gay.  Yep, that's where gay people come from. More often than not, from straight people. I, too, thought they grew out the gay cabbage patch, but nope, the majority of them have mommies and daddies who hopefully taught them acceptance and love.

In case it wasn't clear from all my snark. Assuming your kids are straight could be hurting them. And I think most parents want their kids to be healthy and happy. And there is nothing healthy about making kids think that they were made wrong, that no one else feels the way they do. So don't treat homosexuality as shameful. There is nothing shameful about being gay.


Why is this even news?

I'm sure most of the people who asked this question wouldn't consider themselves homophobic. They probably think they are the opposite of homophobic. They don't even see differences in people. They are above it all. Mhmmmm, sure. It's easy to ignore the things that don't affect you.

This one bothers me even more than the last one because it marginalizes the struggle and accomplishments of minorities. "Oh, a gay person getting into the NFL isn't a big deal." As if it were easy. Let's take a quick look at some of the tweets people posted when Sam got picked.
Being faced with that kind of hate for a peck? Oh yeah, no biggie. Why should we care at all? Right? Deciding to be blind when someone else is being kicked isn't fairness it's convenience. Not everyone is lucky enough to be in a position to just not think about it. Some people have no choice but to deal with homophobia and transphobia. And to marginalize their struggle is part of the reason there is a struggle.

I am proud of who and what I am. My identities have made me strong. Made me see the world in unique and interesting ways. Nothing about me needs to be excused and it most certainly better not be ignored. And I'm sure a lot of people feel the same way.
Thank you for visiting my blog. There are tons of other interesting blogs participating in this event. Here is a list of them. Happy surfing.
22 Comments
Lee Todd
5/16/2014 09:09:30 pm

please count me in

leetee2007@hotmail.com

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Kayci
5/19/2014 06:38:57 am

Thanks

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C.J. link
5/17/2014 01:00:43 am

Great post, Kayci. I think the last point is what a lot of people not affected by marginalisation take the longest to understand.

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Kayci
5/17/2014 02:26:21 am

Thanks CJ. I completely agree with you.

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Trix
5/17/2014 12:57:12 pm

Thanks so much for the post!

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Kayci
5/17/2014 01:14:39 pm

Thanks for your kind words.

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Alexis Duran link
5/18/2014 08:54:54 am

Great post! Funny and right on. I think maybe we can dream of a day when it really isn't news, but sadly, it is. I'm amazed at how brave these gay athletes must be.

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laurie g
5/19/2014 05:59:15 am

Great post & giveaway.

parisfan_ca@yahoo.com

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Kayci
5/19/2014 06:39:28 am

Thank you.

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Ray
5/19/2014 04:16:39 pm

"And I think most parents want their kids to be healthy and happy. And there is nothing healthy about making kids think that they were made wrong, that no one else feels the way they do. So don't treat homosexuality as shameful." Your statement is so true. We need to teach the children about equality from day one.

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Penumbra
5/19/2014 06:38:25 pm

All that hate in people's tweets astounds me.

Thanks for participating in this awesome hop :)

penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

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Rissa
5/20/2014 05:37:36 am

Seeing those tweets seriously made my stomach hurt. :sigh:
Thanks for being a part of the hop :)
raynman1979(at)yahoo(dot)com

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Anastasia Vitsky link
5/20/2014 01:44:52 pm

The "why is this news" reaction isn't just about indifference. It's also about the desire to go beyond token representation and being pigeonholed by sexuality.

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bn100
5/20/2014 04:35:16 pm

Nice of you to share and participate

bn100candg at hotmail dot com

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michelle
5/21/2014 01:11:46 pm

Thanks for the post, this is a fantastic hop.
MHupp20032003(at)yahoo(dot)com

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H.B.
5/21/2014 03:44:19 pm

Wow... just wow. The amount of hate coming from people are astounding. I wish people would adhere to that saying 'if you don't have anything nice to say then keep your goddamn mouth shut" (yeah..okay it doesn't go exactly like that but you know..)

humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

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MA Church link
5/22/2014 04:21:40 am

I've been watching this unfold. I'm a huge football fan to start off, and I can tell you now I'll be keeping an eye on the Rams. I admire Michael Sam so much. NFL is such a macho male sport. He's taking heat over his sexuality; not his rankings, his ability, his stats. No, the heat comes from whom he loves. Seeing the replies on Twitter is disheartening.
~M

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KimberlyFDR link
5/23/2014 02:59:08 am

Thanks for taking part in the hop!

kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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marcthf link
5/23/2014 01:32:03 pm

I really love your post and how well you explained everything. Really need to share it with my friends! I don't understand how people make such hateful comments but it is good that some people stand up!!!

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Skeeter Lee link
5/23/2014 03:59:17 pm

SMH. The news media and haters focused on the kiss so much that they marginalized the real news.

A gay person getting into the NFL. *\o/*

Another door opened! One that couldn't have been easy to pry open. Kudos to Michael Sam.

Hopefully, it will continue to stay open so that more players can come through it - with less negativity.

Thanks for taking part in the hop! Have a great weekend!

skeeterlee63 @ gmail.com

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Sherry S.
5/23/2014 04:32:26 pm

Thanks for the post.
sstrode at scrtc dot com

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Kenneth B link
1/3/2021 11:51:08 am

Hi thanks for sharing thiss

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